When you step up to be a foster parent, you’re making that commitment that you’re the one that’s going to be there when they have nightmares in the middle of the night. You’re the one that’s going to be there to rush them to the emergency room when they have an accident or injury. You’re the one that’s going to be there to calm them when their world’s turning upside down. You’re the one that minor emergency knows by name, because your kids are the most accident prone. They’re the ones that get sick first, get infections first. They’re the ones that you wear your heart on your sleeve for. Because you realize and they realize that they have no one else to depend on so you push yourself a little harder to be the parent that they deserve you to be…Because it’s your calling! One that pushes you farther and deeper than you’ve ever been before! You’re not doing it for yourself. You’re doing it for them, and the Kingdom of God. Because you’re a dedicated follower of Jesus Christ, and because no matter how crazy your life gets, you wouldn’t have it any other way!
Moses was also very aggravated. 11 And Moses said to the Lord, “Why are you treating me, your servant, so harshly? Have mercy on me! What did I do to deserve the burden of all these people? 12 Did I give birth to them? Did I bring them into the world? Why did you tell me to carry them in my arms like a mother carries a nursing baby? How can I carry them to the land you swore to give their ancestors?
This really spoke to my heart today! How many times do we feel like we're carrying the heavy burden of others?
I have to admit that I've asked myself some of these same questions being a foster parent. Sometimes I feel upset that their own parents didn't step up and be the parents they should have been. But, yet at times I feel so blessed that they came into my life for a season.
I also realize that God doesn't call everyone. He calls the select few. The ones that He knows can meet the calling!
When Moses asked God for help and said, I did not give birth to these people why is all this weight on me.
God sent him help!
Number 11: 24
24 So Moses went out and reported the Lord’s words to the people. He gathered the seventy elders and stationed them around the Tabernacle. 25 And the Lord came down in the cloud and spoke to Moses. Then he gave the seventy elders the same Spirit that was upon Moses. And when the Spirit rested upon them, they prophesied. But this never happened again.
Psalms 139: 14
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. 17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!
Psalms 51: 12
Restore to me the joy of your salvation,and make me willing to obey you.13Then I will teach your ways to rebels,and they will return to you.
Molding girls to become young brides for Christ isn’t an easy job. Sometimes we have to redirect them as many as 30 plus times a day. These girls haven’t been taught what most parents have taken the time to teach their kids. Above all, they were never taught social boundaries or knew what a social boundary was. They’re not sure what words are appropriate to say and when. I remember one time hearing a three year-old girl say. “Will you pass the blank potatoes?” She was using the Lord's name in vain. Everyone in that room’s mouth dropped. They had no idea that such words could come from a three-year-old child. But she was just repeating what she had heard her dad say. She thought if daddy can say it, I can say it!
Then there was the time that a ten-year-old says loudly at church, "well that sucked."
I hope the Lord forgives me for repeating that word. I tried to make it clean, Lord!
The bottom line, kids repeat what they see and hear. Hopefully and prayerfully, we can reteach them the right way! But, we need help of the community/church as well. Because these kids aren't with us 24/7.
Numbers 11: 17
I will come down and talk to you there. I will take some of the Spirit that is upon you, and I will put the Spirit upon them also. They will bear the burden of the people along with you, so you will not have to carry it alone.
God meant for the community/church to help carry the burden of the lost people.
Job 10: 9
Remember that you molded me like clay. Will you now turn me to dust again?
Jeremiah 18: 6
O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the Lord. Behold, as the clay is in the potter's hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.
Isaiah 44: 13
The carpenter measures with a line and makes an outline with a marker; he roughs it out with chisels and marks it with compasses. He shapes it in human form, human form in all its glory, that it may dwell in a shrine.
Mark 10: 43
But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, 44and whoever wants to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. 45For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Leviticus 26: 13 I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt so you would no longer be their slaves. I broke the yoke of slavery from your neck so you can walk with your heads held high.
You are a daughter of God. When you know what your privileges are it changes your perspective.
You have the power of God inside of you.
3One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.
14When Jesus saw what was happening, he was angry with his disciples. He said to them, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children. 15I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it.” 16Then he took the children in his arms and placed his hands on their heads and blessed them.
Revelation 4: 11
You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being.”
Saving the Lost Generation
Mark 9: 42
But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.
If we’re going to work on saving the Lost Generation we have to look past what they have lived and been through, but look at God’s promises for their lives. To deny one of these kids God’s purest love, and compassion is to deny Christ and the Father that sent Him. Jesus didn’t hang out with the Pharisees. Or the keepers of the laws, but, He went to the sinner offering the gift of salvation, the forgiveness of sins. Jesus’ teaching was to teach us to get out of our own comfort zones, and walk where men normally wouldn’t walk, but where God had sent them. Jesus didn’t heal the keepers of the law, but healed those that were unaware of the laws. To deny one of these kids God’s love and acceptance is to deny Christ. Because the message you’re sending is that God doesn’t accept you. You’re not pure enough. You’re a threat to my comfort zone. If you feel this way then you aren’t walking in love, but condemnation…And. If this is so you’re saying Jesus Christ died on that cross in vain, because He can’t save the world…You’re also saying if you were born into sin, you’re condemned to sin. You’re saying that you’re not worth saving.
And you’re not being led by the Holy Spirit.
Today, I had the foster girls do something special. I had them list the injustices of the world that they despised the most, as they made their list; they realized that these were the very things that happened to them. It became an eye-opener to them. They realized now that they had a cause worth fighting for to make a difference in another child’s life. Now, they want to know what they can do to rescue another child in the same situation as them. They realized now they had a testimony that was deep embedded in their hearts to change the world. These children are ready now to be a voice for those that are in the same situation that they were once in. Children once lost in darkness now say, let my people go!
Saving the Lost Generation…
By, Patricia Kelley.
Psalms 37: 4
Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you your heart’s desires.
5Commit everything you do to the Lord.
Trust him, and he will help you.
6He will make your innocence radiate like the dawn,
and the justice of your cause will shine like the noonday sun.
I remember when that movie Mr. Destiny came out and I saw it. I was like him caught up in, what if? When I should have been caught up in right now, Man, I look and see all the years I wasted caught up in that, what if? What if I had never walked outside that day to play with my brother and his friends? What if, I had just stayed inside the house that day concentrating on my puzzles and reading my National Geographic?
I would probably be in some crazy pyramid being chased by crazy Egyptians and spiders.
Wow, when I look at it that way! I was saved!
I hate it when people patronize me and say, well God let all of this bad stuff happen to you, so you would be where you are today!
I have a hard time believing that the God that loves me; wanted me to be hurt and damaged at six. I don’t know who your God is, but my God is a loving God. I do believe that what was bad He turned around for good.
For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.
Roman 8: 28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
On the other end of that Moses eventually did what God wanted him to do, and lived to be a 120 years old.
Deuteronomy 34: 7
Moses was a hundred and twenty years old when he died, yet his eyes were not weak nor his strength
Exodus 6: 1
Then the Lord said unto Moses, Now shalt thou see what I will do to Pharaoh: for with a strong hand shall he let them go, and with a strong hand shall he drive them out of his land.
Exodus 8: 1
And the Lord spake unto Moses, Go unto Pharaoh, and say unto him, Thus saith the Lord, Let my people go, that they may serve me.
But, I can’t help but wonder if Moses had done everything God had told him from the start would have he lived longer? Would have he set his feet in the Promised Land? Of course these are the questions that I have today.
But, I see in many ways how Moses and Aaron became the hands and feet of God Almighty.
Exodus 8: 6
And Aaron stretched out his hand over the waters of Egypt; and the frogs came up, and covered the land of Egypt.
I really believe if we act on God’s calling He’s going to meet all of our needs. I have seen this over and over. When we wondered what was going to happen next. God always came through.
I know there are times I start to worry and think wait a minute we aren’t saving anything. We have no 401K. I quit my job so I could stay home and raise kids. My days are filled with who gets their meds at what time, and what’s for dinner? It seems like an easy enough life. Right!
But, then there are those days that I wonder what did I get myself into? Is this really what God wants me to do?
Then we go to church and I see a hand rise up, and the answer is right there. I look to my right and see these girls dressed in their Sunday’s best. I see some praising God and some not. And, I wonder if this is just a feeling with them, or is this for real?
But, I do see changes. I just pray that when I get to Heaven that Jesus looks at me and says “Well done good and faithful servant.”
If I haven't scared you off of being a foster parent. You can contact Lana Freeman, with Saint Francis Community Services to be a foster parent or you can take a leap of faith and contact SAFY, Specialized Alternative for Family and Youth and become a Therapeutic Foster Parent. The Choice is Yours.
The truth is these kids are brain damaged by the trauma they went through in their lives. And they have to be redirected, until they get it right. I don’t want these kids to become part of the lost generation. I want these kids to become true overcomers. We’re looking at an approaching generation rising that was taught no boundaries, and it’s up to us as the church as the body of Christ to lead these lost children to Jesus Christ.
I had one psychologist call these kids, trust bandits. They get you to trust them then they steal you blind.
This isn’t an easy generation to redirect because many are set in their ways. While mom or dad was high on drugs for days they learned to fend for themselves. I had a psychologist tell me that he has seen cases where drug addicts would go out to party and nail pork-chops to the bedroom wall and lock all their kids up in a bedroom so they could go out partying. The kids would be locked up all weekend long. We had kids tell us where frozen food was slid under their door. They were forced to eat frozen corndogs or burnt toast. While some of these kids are so tight lipped about what happened to them, and developed stomach ulcers. These are the kids of meth addicts. These are the kids of the lost generation…
I believe that when Jesus calls the church the body of Christ that we are His hands and feet to go and do what other people won’t do…
I believe that’s why churches are dying today is because they’re not being the hands and feet of Jesus Christ.
I remember reading in Exodus 4: That God became so angry at Moses at one point that He wanted to kill him, because I think He was fed up because Moses was being so stubborn and didn’t want to do what God had called him to do.
Exodus 4: 24
And it came to pass by the way in the inn, that the Lord met him, and sought to kill him.
1Corinthians 12: 27
Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.
28And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues.
29Are all apostles? are all prophets? are all teachers? are all workers of miracles?
Romans 12: 5
So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.
All of these kids know me as mom…
With one I have, she’s never met her real mom, so she hungers for that mother daughter relationship.
Like many of these kids they never lived in one place long enough to stabilize, so many of them are beneath their grade average. But, I have found with time that they soon catch up or surpass their current grade level.
And like me, all of these kids have dreams, one wants to be a journalist, one wants to be a veterinarian and the other a marine biologist. And my dream is to make sure that they reach their dreams.
I really believe that God calls those that have been through the same thing as them so that they can identify with them in some way. And, I believe that God called me to rescue the brokenhearted.
There are so many kids filled with unguided anger; that if not redirected they’re going to wind up in the penal system just like their biological parents. It’s just a matter of time…
It’s up to us as a church, as the body of Christ to redirect this lost generation before it’s too late. When a child of the state turns eighteen years-old they’re given a suitcase a hundred dollars and sent on their way.
Many of these kids are just waiting for the right person to come along and rescue them. Some of these kids suffer so much from anxiety waiting to be adopted. And some of them have a misconception that when they’re adopted their life is going to be filled with gifts everyday like the movie Annie.
I can’t make promises of gifts accept for Christmas and Birthdays and a stuff animal on Valentine’s Day. But, I can promise that I will teach you about the love of God, and if you have that knowledge. He will protect you all the days of your life, if you follow His direction.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Matthew 14: 18
And he said, “Bring them here to me.” 19Then he ordered the crowds to sit down on the grass, and taking the five loaves and the two fish, he looked up to heaven and said a blessing. Then he broke the loaves and gave them to the disciples, and the disciples gave them to the crowds. 20And they all ate and were satisfied. And they took up twelve baskets full of the broken pieces left over. 21And those who ate were about five thousand men, besides women and children.
Matthew 10: 28
And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? and one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father.
30But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
31Fear ye not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows.
We’ve been therapeutic foster parents for five years now. And this has been a journey in which we have both wept over the pain of these kids. It hurts when you think that you get these kids and just loving them and teaching them about God is going to make things all better.
There are times when we’ve had kids come to our home for a season, and like a bird they fly away! Some, I see again! And, some, I never see again! Some are so damaged that they can never have a normal life. They’re eventually locked away, institutionalized. They’re life has been so traumatized that they can’t get over the trauma of their bio families. Or mom did so many drugs when she was pregnant like crystal meth that there are too many holes in their brains, and they can’t control their rage. Some have been sold by their own dad’s. The person that they thought they could trust; sold them to the highest bidder.
These are the lost children of this generation that are waiting for someone to step up and say. I want you. I love you!
Exodus 22: 22
Do not take advantage of the widow or the fatherless.
John 14: 18
I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
There are so many children that are robbed of their childhoods. I remember having one foster girl that I took to Toys R Us. It was her first time to walk through a toy store, and when she saw all the toys waiting to be played with. She busted out crying! I was cheated! She screamed. She was all emotional. My childhood was stolen from me. She cried, sobbing. As soon as I heard those words, I became like my husband the fixer. I immediately thought I could let her pick out things at the store, and somehow, she could get her childhood back. But what she needed wasn’t at the store. I couldn’t give her back the years she lost. No more than I could get back the time I lost. That day, we cried together. I was crying with her. We shared our hurts together. You could say that was the day, I became her mother. She cried for the doctor suit that was made for a three-year-old. She was ten. And, I cried for the Barbie I never got to hold in my hands. We were two souls brought together by time. I was there to hold her hand and tell her together in this season of time. We would make it. We were survivors. We were overcomers. You aren’t defined by what happens in your life. But you’re defined by how you’re remembered when you die.
I learned that when I worked for hospice. I don’t know how many funerals that I attended where the only thing they could say was that she made the best cookies or cake. I thought right then that isn’t how I want to be remembered in this life. I want to be remembered by those that I helped set free through the love of Jesus Christ. How could anyone on earth want to be remembered for making the best cookies?
I don’t even want to be remembered for making the best soap. I want to be remembered for helping to set the captives free. Don’t get me wrong. I appreciate the fact that there are people that like our products. But, I really hope these people are seeing the whole picture. This isn’t about clean skin. This is about purifying the soul.
Isaiah 1: 18
Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool
Romans 12: 21
Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
Psalms 35: 10
10 With every bone in my body I will praise him:
“Lord, who can compare with you?
Who else rescues the helpless from the strong?
Who else protects the helpless and poor from those who rob them?”
Psalms 34: 15
The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right;
His ears are open to their cries for help.
Psalms 34: 18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
When I think about what a lot of foster kids have been through it gives me shivers to think that we at one point shared the same fears. I know how much God loves children, and I think it’s for this reason that the enemy attacks the helpless children. He enjoys tormenting God. He enjoys breaking God’s heart. When the enemy attacks a child. God sees what’s happening and His heart breaks over and over, again!
Matthew 19: 13
Then people brought little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked them.
14Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” 15When he had placed his hands on them, he went on from there.
Matthew 18: 10
See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.
I try to tell my kids all the time to tell the truth and it will set you free. It may cause problems with the other, but once you let it out. You realize that you have been dealing with this guilt for a long time that you had nothing to feel ashamed about, that it wasn’t your fault. Unfortunately, this is also when the guilty party says that you lied and made everything up. Right, who really wants to make up a story so Bizarre and twisted?
Regardless of what anyone else says. When you let the truth out you are free, but the guilty one now has the guilt and shame to deal with. I tell my kids to tell the truth it doesn’t matter what you did, you’re a kid. If someone took advantage of you, speak up and let it out. God didn’t mean for you to carry this burden by yourself.
I know my abuser said that I wanted it at seven-years old. So, he could justify what he did or allowed to happen to me.
Thank God he never had kids himself.
Isaiah 61: 1-3
1The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
because the Lord has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners,
2to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
3and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
a planting of the Lord
for the display of his splendor.
I know just like me every child has a story yet to be told. We can just pray that when the time for it to unfolds come that they’re ready to deal with it.
John 8: 32
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
I had a child that woke me up several times through the night screaming to the top of her lungs. It happened the same time every night. This can mean the abuser attacked her at this time each night. Sometimes kids don't even have to say a word, you can tell by their actions what happened to them. The mind doesn't turn off. It records it so it can playback later in your memories.
Some call this PTSD!
Some call it bad luck!
I cried myself to sleep thinking if only I had the courage to tell my dad what was going on he would protect me. But, I was frozen in fear. He even planned the accident. I thought it was just a matter of time before I disappeared off the face of the earth. Because he was bigger and said he would and who knows, my mom might let him. I had no one. My dad worked all the time. He wasn't home except for weekends. And, my small life was hanging by a thread. Someone five years older than me made the choice whether I lived or died. These were the thoughts I lived with. These are the same thoughts your foster child lives with.
Patricia Kelley is an author, content writer, copywriter, songwriter, wife, mother, Nana, missionary, soap maker, but above all, she is a follower of Jesus Christ!