We were used and abused, disgraced by our own brothers and then he wanted to discard me. People don’t think anything like this can happen in America. We fight wars because of how other people treat their women and children when the truth of it is if you open your own eyes and ears you will see it right here in America. There are older brothers here in America that disgrace their little sisters every day. When the fathers are absent the girls become vulnerable. This is why it’s so important for fathers to be at home in the evenings to structure their children because if they aren’t someone else is. When both parents are absent the youngest are left at the mercy of the older kids. The parent watching them should be in the same room as them and not separate themselves by going off and doing their own thing. If you aren’t watching and you leave the youngest unattended. You have no idea what the youngest child is going through. If you suspect any kind of abuse at home by older siblings. I would immediately separate them until you get home. Have a neighbor or someone else watch the youngest child. Especially if your oldest child bullies other kids. He or she may target the youngest because of jealousy and the attention that they get over them. My brother was known to be a bully. He roped a neighbor off of his bike when he was riding it down the street. He would often attack other boys to prove his strength. There was no doubt that he was a bully. He was often suspended from school for fighting. I was even told by a funeral home director when a family member passed away that he wasn’t allowed in there because he was the meanest kid in school. I looked at the funeral director and said if you think he was mean at school think about how he treated his little sister. There were many times I had black eyes and bruises on my body from him hitting me. He was downright mean. He walked up to my five-year-old and hit her in the arm and she started crying. And he was a grown man. It didn’t matter the age he would walk up to people in our family all ages and punch them. It made no sense. But it made him feel good!
God intended for older brothers to be the protectors of their little sisters. He didn’t put them in the family to be broken and taken advantage of. I think it breaks God’s heart when he sees one of his children being abused.
If a boy comes against his sister in this way he disgraces his sister and comes against God.
Now I don’t know who influenced my brother. I know that there was some mental illness in the family on my mom’s side. My dad would often say his brain was chemically unbalanced. He was a sex addict and addicted to alcohol and drugs. He went AWOL in the Army. He didn’t have the same characteristics of my dad. He abused women and children. When he was younger he abused animals. He liked putting rubber bands around stray dogs necks to see how long it would take for it to die. Or put a glass jar over their heads to suffocate them. He was never a gentle loving kid.
Leviticus 19:17 “'If a man has marital relations with his sister , whether the daughter of his father or his mother , so that he sees her nakedness and she sees his nakedness , it is a disgrace . They must be cut off in the sight of the children of their people . He has exposed his sister's nakedness ; he will bear his punishment for iniquity
The Bible tells us that this sin goes against the brother. The brother has exposed his sister to nakedness.
What happened to us girls is similar to the story of Joseph we were traded off for other sisters so in essence they could build their own harem of girls for their pleasures. It isn’t much different than human trafficking. I hope that none of us were raped. I will never know how far it all went with the other sisters. I know it was enough to break me and make me feel ashamed. I’m sure it did the same to them. For many of us our lives were changed forever. I know some of the sisters started eventually getting pregnant to leave the sister club. Some dropped out of school never being able to fulfill their dreams. I lived with that shame for years. Not knowing who it was that saw me and felt me in the darkest hours.
I have spoken with several women that went through the similar things. I've talked to doctors, and other women who went through the same thing. There is no social discrepancy. What brings us together is our shame.
If you have been wounded by this. I urge you to give it to Jesus. He is our healer.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.