2 Samuel 13: 12 “No, my brother!” she said to him. “Don’t force me! Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don’t do this wicked thing. 13 What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you.” 14 But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.
15 Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!”
16 “No!” she said to him. “Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me.”
But he refused to listen to her. 17 He called his personal servant and said, “Get this woman out of my sight and bolt the door after her.” 18 So his servant put her out and bolted the door after her. She was wearing an ornate[a] robe, for this was the kind of garment the virgin daughters of the king wore. 19 Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the ornate robe she was wearing. She put her hands on her head and went away, weeping aloud as she went.
20 Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has that Amnon, your brother, been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister; he is your brother. Don’t take this thing to heart.” And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom’s house, a desolate woman.
We know by the Word of God that sibling sexual abuse ruined the life of the beautiful Princess Tamar and any dreams that she hoped for. She didn’t live as a survivor that thrived. She lived desolate meaning she never married or had children. Her brother ruined her life.
Just as I hear today how many brothers have ruined the lives of their little sisters through pornography. I don’t know how many stories I’ve heard where big brothers experimented on their little sisters because of pornographic pictures they saw or stories they read. So many younger children are left at home entrusted with an older sibling when parents are absent. I’m not saying every big brother assaults his little sister. There are some good big brothers out there, I know my best friend has always had a protective big brother. But there are some of us that were thrown to the mercy of the wild wolf living in our home. The mentally demented and perverted that wanted to rip our innocence apart.
We can never get back the years that we lost, we can pray for Spiritual healing. We can pray for God to rebuild our lives. But some of the trauma took its toll. Our fragmented lives are like a puzzle dumped on a table where we try with the help of God to piece it all together. We work at it with one piece at a time. Nothing really makes sense what happened to us. Our voices were silenced as kids. Those we thought we could trust hurt us and betrayed us.
My hope is in the Lord. It’s because of his death on the cross and my relationship with him that I have a new life. But I have to work daily on building my weaponry with verses from the Bible that bring me peace.
Isaiah 53:5 But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was pierced for our iniquities and the chastisement of our peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.
If you look up the word chastisement it means to scold or punish someone.
Does this mean that we don’t have complete peace until those that have violated us did us wrong are punished?
The Bible also calls this wicked.
Meaning: evil or morally bad in principle or practice; sinful; iniquitous:
wicked people; wicked habits.
Nahum 1:3 The Lord is slow to anger but great in power; the Lord will not leave the guilty unpunished.
Leviticus 19:17 “'If a man has marital relations with his sister , whether the daughter of his father or his mother , so that he sees her nakedness and she sees his nakedness , it is a disgrace . They must be cut off in the sight of the children of their people . He has exposed his sister's nakedness ; he will bear his punishment for iniquity
If you know of someone that has been through sibling sexual abuse, please share my story. We can only break the cycle if we don't remain silent!